I was just reading a story. About a young boy invited to a birthday party. The theme, princesses and castles. Though he was the only boy, his parents let him go. He asked if he could dress up in a costume as well. They allowed it. He was maybe 5 or 6. The parents ridiculed the parents of the young boy. Judging them harshly. Yet, the other small children invited him in, gave compliments on his costume, and never gave it a second thought. It brings my attention to Society. Why is it that as a society we have all of a sudden thought that we can just over step our bounds and freely open our mouth to give an opinion that wasnt asked for in the first damn place? We are like bulls in a China closet for Pete’s sake! It bothers me, as Im sure it bothers a lot of people.I blogged and posted a similar post talking about judging others. Easy to do since your on the dishing out end.
What about the receiving end of things? Have you ever been judged or bullied? Its horrible! I think its something thats becoming more and more prevalent, and forgiven more often. I believe its like a disease….”must open mouth”….to- say-something-negative…… I believe that people need to keep more to them selves instead of up in everyone’s business inviting themselves in to tell you alllllll about yourself and what your doing wrong. Of course, when confronted, these people are the very same ones that when you try to tell them about themselves or offer constructive criticisms they become belligerent idiots and start acting like fools getting angry and hostile! The more we turn a blind eye to it and pretend that it doesnt exist, the more it seems to happen. If it doesnt hurt you, and doesnt affect you….then keep out of it. It doesnt pertain to you. Some how, people automatically assume that because we have this “Freedom of Speech” that we are entitled to be asses about how we feel and can treat strangers like dogs or scum. Like they are “ABOVE” everyone else! I get so frustrated with people on this scale of things. Just because you have a mouth doesnt mean you should open it as often as you think that you should. Brings me back to “If you dont have anything nice to say, dont say anything at all.” What happened to that? What happened to tact? What happened to manners and minding your own business if there is no threat involved. If you, or someone around you safety’s is not threatened…back off!
As the general public a lot of us are guilty of this. Being sick with illnesses is another prime example. I have a few diseases that I have to take day by day. When you look at me or someone like me…you can not tell Im not well. However, people are quick to judge. Ruling out the fact that they dont know what the hell they think they know in the first place! People with illnesses dont have tattoos on their foreheads saying their sick. Why should they(we)….? Its not anyones business Im not feeling good or in pain…or that I cant move …ect. ect. Also, that of a victim. Its an out cry and people should be ashamed of themselves for telling someone to “get over it” or “isnt about time you let that go’? They really have no idea…but have full intentions on judging someone without knowing the first thing about being one! I think that the old sayings should come back. Times have changed….and sometimes I think not for the better of our interests. People are getting out of hand and so is their attitudes and opinions. Feelings arent taken into account and get trampled on so easily. Some people are over bearing and over opinionated. Its rude and inconsiderate. To me, its another form of bullying. But adult style. We are so busy wrapped up in the dramas of others, that life is passing us by in our very own lives. Take a step back and weigh out your options….there can be consequences to opening your mouth and giving your unwarranted opinion. Are you ready to take a chance and ruin relationships over your indecent jabbering? What are we teaching our youth when we behave this way? How can we correct them when they have learned by watching us with their own eyes? We are supposed to be leading by example. Fine specimen we are.
Bottom Line is: dont judge a book by its cover, you might find the contents arent what you were expecting, and know nothing about in the first place!!